Reasons for/against Divorce

Reasons why I can't and won't settle with G any longer:


  1. Habitual liar. Won't even admit when lying point blank to my face. Twists his so called truth, cheats, steals, and uses any tactic possibly to get what he wants when he wants it.
  2. A complete slob. Won't clean up after self to any degree, leaves clothes, dishes, tools, messes for others to clean up.
  3. Refuses to take responsibility for own actions and refuses to admit when wrong.
  4. Treats me like shit. I am the least important thing in his life and poker, work, friends, money, dogs, and phone come first.
  5. Treats me like a maid. Refuses to help with any chores. I clean the entire house, do the yard work, pay the bills, wash clothes, balance the budget, do all the shopping, care for the dogs (brush, bathe, feed, clean up after, shop for, schedule vet appointments)
  6. Justifies everything he does because I've done worse.
  7. I can't change G and can't accept him for who he is and has become.

What my freedom will result in:

  1. loss of the home I love
  2. possible loss of my dogs
  3. independence
  4. less stress from not having to deal with his messes and continual belittlement
  5. loss of belongings
  6. decrease in income
  7. may not be able to support myself
  8. going against my beliefs
  9. emotional turmoil and stress
  10. a new beginning
  11. the mar of a divorce
  12. opportunity to find a healthier relationship
  13. inability to go to grad school in the near future
  14. decreased opportunity to have a child

Comments

Anonymous said…
Well, I think you already know how I feel about this sort of thing.

The one comment or question I have though is "mar of divorce"? Do you really feel that people hold that against you in today's world? I've certainly never felt that was so. Now, if one has been divorced several times, then, yes, people start to give you funny looks, but not once or even twice.
I'm just saying...
9/10/2006 2:48 PM
brian luenemann said…
As good as it might feel to think of being rid of him- do you see yourself able to go through with it? Just the thought that comes to mind from monitoring your blog and from how little I know you.
I agree with n.g. about the "mar of divorce". What little of that you feel would be minor compared to the relief you'd feel not having to deal with him.
Sole advice I would offer is allow yourself the mistake of marrying on a whim and don't punish yourself the rest of your life for it. God won't hold it against you. He's got bigger things to worry about.
9/12/2006 8:43 PM
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